Feeling lonely during the holidays is a real challenge, but there are effective strategies to help manage these emotions. Research in psychology and mental health provides guidance on how to cope and find moments of connection and peace.

What we’re shown during the holidays often reflects an idealized version of family and togetherness, not the full range of human experience.

Have a peaceful holiday season, with a side of realism! In May of 2018, Cigna surveyed 20,000 Americans about their feelings of connection to others. The study found that nearly half of the respondents felt lonely most or all of the time, 43% don’t feel their relationships are meaningful and 43% also felt isolated from others. These are staggering statistics. Current research, with a large number of participants, finds that loneliness is a defining feature of American soc

Trauma survivors are made particularly anxious by the hoopla around the holidays. Because of the fear and pain created by emotional and physical abuse, the nervous system of a trauma survivor is already on high alert, armed to scan and protect from potential danger. The extra stress of social gatherings (even happy gatherings) with the accompanying sensory and emotional inputs inflames a nervous system whose set point is already uncomfortably high. The sensory input at a

This post reflects how I personally use DBT skills during high-stress seasons. It is an illustration of using DBT in a lived experience. Lots of us get flustered during the busy holiday season. If you’re already coping with challenges such as grief, depression, anxiety, PTSD, or bipolar disorder, staying grounded in healthy routines becomes even more important. As I started thinking about cooking for Thanksgiving—something I usually enjoy—I noticed myself feeling unexpectedly

You are Not Alone. You Are Not to Blame. With Help, You Will Feel Better There is a widespread belief that suicide rates increase during the holidays. This belief is powerful — and frightening — especially if you are already struggling. But it is also not true . Research consistently shows that suicide rates do not rise during the holiday season. In fact, many people feel more supported during this time because of increased contact with family, friends, and community gathe

The holiday season can be joyful — and it can also be exhausting, emotional, and overwhelming. If you’re feeling stretched thin, you’re not doing anything wrong. Holiday stress is common, and there are gentle ways to take care of yourself without forcing cheer or perfection. 1. Be Kind to Yourself Start by noticing your inner dialogue. If your self-talk becomes harsh or critical, pause and ask yourself: Would I say this to a friend I care about? If the answer is no, gently