During a heated discussion, paradoxically, walking away for a break can help you stay connected!

Successful couples turn towards each other 86% of the time while distressed couples, who eventually divorce, turn towards only 33%!

It was a few months before Sarah felt she trusted me enough to reveal what she felt was her deepest internalized shame. Initial consultation Sarah came to therapy at the suggestion of her primary care physician, who had prescribed an anti-anxiety medication and encouraged her to seek counseling. She described persistent anxiety, frequent tearfulness, increasing irritability, angry outbursts she struggled to control, and disrupted sleep — “for no reason,” as she put it. When I

A gentle note: Couple’s skills are meant to support healthy connection. If something in your relationship feels confusing, belittling, or unsafe, it can be helpful to first read Is Verbal Abuse Really Abuse?   before practicing communication tools. Joni Mitchell’s Both Sides Now captures something many couples struggle to name: how easily certainty hardens, and how quickly understanding slips away when emotions take over. In close relationships, moments of conflict often fee

A gentle note: Couple’s skills are meant to support healthy connection. If something in your relationship feels confusing, belittling, or unsafe, it can be helpful to first read Is Verbal Abuse Really Abuse?   before practicing communication tools. In his poem, He Wishes for the Cloths of Heaven , W.B. Yeats captures the vulnerability of offering one’s inner world by sayin… "I have spread my dreams under your feet, Tread softly because you tread on my dreams" The Listening Do