Arguments often escalate because both partners feel the need to be heard immediately. When emotions peak, the brain’s ability to think clearly diminishes, making it harder to listen or respond thoughtfully. The Gottman technique of stepping back interrupts this cycle.

Our relationship to plants is primal and emotional. Our relationship to the beautiful rose flower is unparalleled. The flower's gorgeous scent, its lush flowers have a profound effect on our brain's emotional centers - the limbic system. Because of this intense emotional effect, the rose has been written about in poetry and song for centuries and red roses are universally known as symbols of enduring romantic love and sexual passion.